Why #WasteHisTime2016 Is Counterproductive + Childish

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Haven't we learned anything yet? Haven't we learned that when a man does not care, announcing on social media the things that you would do to retaliate, will only have him laughing at you. The digital street's latest phenomenon and new years resolution is the #WasteHisTime2016 campaign. After seeing statements pop up on my Instagram and Twitter timelines over the course a few hours, I was extremely bothered and felt the need to rant. It's the first week of the year, and this is how we're starting? Really?

I am sure that the thousands of "girls" who are openly expressing their plans to hurt or ridicule "boy's" with their #WasteHisTime2016 statements have been hurt. I've been HURT and I know the pain that comes from dating a guy who brushes you off like an old pair of sneakers. I know the pain all too well and I am glad to know that I am not alone. However, this petty campaign is a reflection of the collective negative experiences of dating in this hotline bling age. Our romantic connections have been desensitized by text messages, FaceTime calls and DM's. No wonder girls and women feel that guys have been wasting our time. For God's sake, do we really think that we're getting to know someone via texts? And do we really think that sleeping with someone for months without commitment is going to give us the relationship that we seek? No. That's not how it works.

Technology has given us more access to dating options in comparison to our parents days. Yet, we forget that the core human behavior remains the same. Today, our phones are an excuse for a connection. A lot of men have wasted our time, but I am sure that the SIGNS of him wasting your time were there all along. You stayed around for the great vibes and the chemistry (that led you to lust real hard). Yes he led you on for a long period of time, but realize that it was your choice to continue to charade. Unfortunately he was playing a game on you, but the experience should have taught you what to pay attention for the next go around.

We should not waste negative energy on dead situations, period. Being bitter will not change past outcomes and will not attract better guys in your life. I know that many are empowered by this trend, but #WasteHisTime2016 should not be a call for female power or feminism. It's actually a big pity party. It's no surprise that young men have started #WasteHerTime2016 as a comeback. It's all really stupid because at the end of the day, most of you WANT AND DESIRE to be in a committed relationship.

I suggest you re-consider your petty #WasteHisTime2016 plans and let karma take care of that ass. Trust, "what goes around, will come around".